Studies show that adolescent girls are particularly vulnerable to developing a poor body image. Between media showers of "ideal" bodies and a desire to be admired by a peer group, girls can feel a great deal of anxiety about their changing bodies. To ease the pressure and encourage positive self-esteem, compliment your daughter on her appearance. Don't tease her about A Note About Body Image.
Her physical attributes or make her feel self-conscious about her weight. Reassure your daughter that girls grow at different rates. Her best friend might be developing while she's not, or vice-versa.
Eventually everyone will catch up to one another, and everyone will look a little different: tall, short, pear-shaped, angular. Acknowledge and compliment achievements not related to her looks: academics, arts, sports, acts of kindness.
Positive reinforcement is crucial for your daughter. If she has a legitimate weight problem, deal with it. But do it in a way that doesn't make her feel like she's set apart from the rest of the family. Instead of putting her on a diet by herself, provide healthy meals and exercise opportunities for the whole family. Obesity is defined as being 20% above a healthy weight for one's height and build. Check with your doctor if you are concerned that your child might be obese.
Examine your own body image. Your attitude may directly shape your daughter's. If you feel good about yourself, she'll be more likely to feel good about herself.
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