Lessons in Dating for You and Your Daughter
Dating as a single mom can be difficult, especially with a teenage daughter who's dating as well. Here are a few tips on how to set a good example for her, and help guide her through this exciting and emotional time.
When it comes to your dating life, you should
- Be choosy. Of course, you already are when it comes to whom you date. But dating someone with a good personality and admirable qualities sets a great example for the type of person you expect your daughter to date.
- Be the adult. Don't stay out later than you say you will. If you expect her to follow the dating rules you set for her, you should abide by them as well.
- Tell her how it went, if she asks. If he did something nice, tell her about it. If he did something you didn't care for, you can share that, too. She should know what a real date is like and how you expect to be treated.
When it comes to her dating life, you should
- Know who she's dating. Have her ask him to show up a few minutes early so you can meet him, or invite him over for dinner. You want to show your daughter that you are interested in her date, and you want to show her date that you're an actively involved parent.
- Know where they're going and when they'll be home. If she has a curfew, make sure he knows it.
- Ask her how it went. She's probably excited to tell you about it anyway, but it's important that she know she can talk to you about anything that happened - good and bad.
- Help her through the tough times. Let her know that it's O.K to speak up if he's done something she doesn't care for. When it comes to breakups, help her practice what she'll say, if she's initiating it. If he broke up with her, be her shoulder to cry on. Tell her that you know it hurts (we all know that feeling), but that things will get a little better each day. She'll need you as a mother and a friend, so watch some girly movies together, go shopping or go out for ice cream, and keep a good dialogue going.
If you found this helpful, these articles and forums might help, too:
Article: Mom & Daughter Changing Together
Article: Five Friends Every Woman Needs
Forum: Romantic Relationships