Preparing You and Your Daughter for Her Period

kristin, 6/2/2008 9:51:49 PM
great idea's i would say tell your daughter to start carring a purse if she gose anywhere where there is no one to help her out in he long run.

kaytee, 6/10/2008 8:22:35 PM
my daughter says she has her period and she wants me to by her pads and tampons, but she cant as shes cathlic and a virgin!! and also, shes far too young to have her period, she is only 15.

beth, 6/12/2008 3:05:46 PM
Kaytee, you are very wrong on many counts. By 15, nearly all girls have their period. and it doesn't matter your religion or virginity if you want to buy these products. In fact, based on your spelling and grammer, i would say that you are actually the "daughter" you are talking about, or very undereducated.

Kathryn, 6/16/2008 6:48:09 PM
My daughter is eleven years old, has not started her menstration cycle yet and is starting to ask me questions, i am not sure that she is old enough to know yet. Please offer me some assistance, thank you.

Laura, 6/19/2008 7:02:51 PM
Kathryn, your daughter is not to young to know the facts. Some girls actually start their period as young as 8!

Angie, 6/21/2008 11:08:14 PM
I would say educate your daughter. It is not too early. My 11 year old just started her first period on Thursday and by today she is like a waterfall. However, because she was informed she didn't panic or freak ... she just came and told me "Mom, I need to borrow a pad from you because I just started my period." It was no big deal to her. Now if she wasn't informed she would have freaked out like she does over everything else :) We (as a family) made it her special day of welcoming woman hood by going out to dinner but of course only the three of us (my husband, my daughter and I) knew what we were "celebrating". Today she told me she was so over this and wanted to know if she was going to have this until she dies :) lol So please do your daughters a favor and empower them with knowledge ... you may be surprised at what she already knows and understands.

Jen, 6/24/2008 11:43:12 PM
My 7-year-old daughter wants to know what my tampons are. She's only ever seen the outer package, and doesn't know the name of them. But, she seems curious to what they are. I'm having a hard time deciding what to tell her about them. I don't believe I should be going into the bleeding/period talk yet, because then I would need to explain further about a woman's body cycle/ making babies!!! (She's one of those kids who asks 20 questions about everything!) So, ladies, what should I say? What's a good starting point for explaining the products?

Julianna, 7/1/2008 11:47:48 PM
My 13 yr old daughter has been exceptionally interested in these things and is now laying on the couch with cramps so I think it maybe gonna happen.

Yvette, 7/7/2008 5:56:58 AM
My 11 year old daughter has this brown stain in her underwear. and she says it keeps coming back.....Can someone tell me if this is her period or not! Thanks Yvette

VERONICA, 7/9/2008 11:06:54 AM
I REALY LIKE THIS,IT MAKES ME FEEL PROTECTED AND SUCURE IT HELP ME NOTISE THATTHERE IS NOTHING TO WORRIE AOUT AND THAT HELPS WHEN I START MY PERIOD.

lainy, 7/11/2008 5:31:16 PM
My daughter wants to start.
She's 11 she has pubic hair ,leg hair, stains her underwear, and has boobs
do you think she is going to start?
Is it normal that she wants to start

Lidia, 7/15/2008 12:22:13 PM
This is to Yvette, my 11 year old sister is going through the same thing as your daughter is. The stains on her underwear is giving her a sign that she is going to have her period pretty soon, so prepare her for anything and have a talk with her. My mother and I did and she knows what to do and she asks us about anything when she needs to know. I suggest you to do the same.

Madison, 7/16/2008 4:41:52 PM
This is to Iainy, I think that she may start soon. My daughter had the same symptoms when she was eleven and got her period a few months later. She also had wanted to start,but it was mainly because all of her friends had and she now felt left out, but now (she's 13) she doesn't wish that anymore.
So don't worry it is perfectly normal for her to want to start, though she may regret it later:D

Sher, 7/18/2008 7:24:36 AM
I believe you need to have a heart to heart conversations about about women's bodies and how they are changing.
I wasn't told about my menstral periods until the 5th grade at age 12-13. I was so shocked that my friends were all informed and I wasn't. I had not idea what a month period was.
Then my first period started a summer camp. It was awful not to have my mom around for support. It was embarrissing to go to my camp conselor and tell her, She tried to help but she was a bit old fashion girl that wore the super thick maxi-pad that had a hook for a belt. Her maxi paids were way to large for a thin 13 year old girl. I tried the pad but it had a loud swish sound when I walked around, I though everyone new I was on my period. I also though I would not get to swim or water ski at camp.
. I talked to one of the other girls in my camp troup and she explained about using a thin liner and to try a small tampon carefully .she stood outside the bathroom stall after we read all the direction and she talked me through using my first tampon.with her instructions and patients I enjoyed my 3 weeks at summer camp,and a one week period with no leaks and made a good friend.
The camp conselor was very up set that I asked for additional help. she saw no reason for extra help the maxi pads. I explained to her I needed different products than she had available. I expllained I needed a panty liners and a tampon during swiming/water sking days. The conselor told us as young girls were weren't suppose to use tampons they were for older women.
I showed her the direction and they were recomment for all women and worked well during swiming, the package said it was ok to use a tampon during your first period. I truly believe two 14 year girls taught a grown women about femine products. I am glad I received the help I needed with my first period.
I recomment mom's pack an emergency menstral purse when daughter are going away it may be a the lifesaver of embarssiment.

Lidia, 7/20/2008 11:52:05 PM
I agree with Sher. Mothers need to have a heart to heart confidential conversation with their daughters so they would not go through any embarrassment in front of other people. Girls who are about to start their period should be well informed and be able to trust their mother. But I do have to disagree that a 14 year old girl is too young to use a tampon, even if she's at a camp or swimming. Any girl can easily hurt themselves.

anna, 7/21/2008 11:49:55 AM
I am 14 years old and i live with my uncle. I need help because my school hasn't talk to my class about pregnaucy. I think i might be pregnaut but i don't know how to tell my uncle. He has gave me a home food and so many books. And i gave him a chance to be a great uncle. Now i my question do i miss my period for nine months or one

mominmich, 7/23/2008 11:53:54 PM
My daughter is almost 9 and is already showing signs of puberty (arm pit hair, breast developing, etc). I am worried that she will have her 1st period way too soon. What is the best way to discuss the subject with her so that she will understand & not be scared?

jane, 7/24/2008 12:34:00 PM
My daughter is 15 and she has pubic hair and she has breast but the problem is she doesnt have no armpit hair. is anything wrong with her or is it perfectly normal?

Lidia, 7/26/2008 6:40:26 PM
Anna, I know I am not any body to judge a person like you because it is neither you nor your uncle’s fault that you might be pregnant, but I think that you are disappointing your uncle. It is already hard for him to take care of a 14 year old girl, yet again alone. I understand the fact that you do not live with your parents and I am assuming that you do not have a female to talk to you about these things. I mean you do not even know how to spell pregnant, how do you expect to have and raise a kid on your own. Having a child is a big responsibility that you might have on your hands. Your uncle may help you, but on the long run, you will be on your own.
Anna, while being pregnant women do not have their period for nine months or at least after the baby is born. After that, your period comes every month, or unless you take birth control pills, but your too young for that? I just hope that you do not come out to be pregnant, but if you do God bless you and I hope you learn your lesson because your not only affecting yourself, but also the ones that love you.

katelyn, 7/26/2008 9:11:07 PM
i'm sick and tired of peopel saying that "my daughter is catholic and a virgin and she says she has her period." ok Just because of those facts she will still get her period! i mean i think its time that your mother had the talk with you. It doesn't mattter what age,religion, or virgin status. you will still get your period.

Carol, 7/26/2008 10:46:41 PM
My daughter is nine. She has known what for years that a period is something every girl gets. She has had pubic hair since age 5 and arm pit hair for the last six months. I recently showed her how to shave her pits.
I may or may not have an issue. Today my daughter kept saying her breasts hurt. She kept rubbing them over and over.
I think she may be getting ready to start her period. I told her that may be a sign she is going to start her period. The problem....she leaves for camp tomorrow for one week. I showed her tonight how to use a pad and told her if she starts to wear her dark shorts. I did not discuss with her about swimming... Isn't she too young for a tampon? Can anyone remember thier first period? Is it heavy? If it is not, she should be able to swim without using anything. I know she is mentally prepared for the period. How should I address swimming with her. She is not allowed to call home while she is gone.

Allie, 7/30/2008 3:05:02 PM
This is for carol, Your daughter is nine years old and you may be as scared for her that she is going to get her period. Dont be!!! It is going to happen to her one day and why not now. You said that she may be too young to use a tampon. Well, your wrong. You can use a tampon on your first period or a little later but either way she is going to want to try them. So let her try tampons and make sure that she follows the instructions very carefully. If you want her to wait a couple of years then do so. Just remember that she needs to be as prepared as she needs to be to go to camp, because nothing is worse than getting your period unexpected in the public. Make sure she has plenty of pads and she knows how to use them. And if you want to throw a couple of tampons in there and tell her to only use them when she goes swimming if you are that worried about it. Make sure you tell her to take it out about 4-8 hours after she puts the tampon in. If they are left in more than 4-8 hours then that could make the risk of TSS greater. Good luck!!!

shelby, 8/4/2008 4:21:26 PM
heres 2 everybody

it doesnt matter what religion or if your a virgin, you will get your period, and tampons dont take your virginity

tell the young ones so they dont freak out when they get it, and leave the parenting to the parents

Lidia, 8/7/2008 8:47:44 PM
The main word with Parents is Communication, especially with a mom in this case. Learning about my period was a bit embarrassed when my mom first talked to me about it and all the changes every girl is going to go through. At first when my mom talked to me about it, I would say I wasn't ready for this or just walked away, but as I got older I realized that sooner or later I would have the talk no matter what. Learning about the menstruation cycle was helpful because I learned where it comes from or why is it important to have a period. A period comes every month or for some people every other, but a period is painful and there is no other person who is going to take care of you or even help you besides your mom. Besides every woman goes through this cycle, no matter the race or color of the skin, and if you don't have this talk with your mom, then someone else will have it with you and it might be slightly uncomfortable if another person does it besides your mom. Moms...have a talk with your teen even if you’re embarrassed. It helps you and as well as your teen.

Micaela, 8/9/2008 10:01:48 AM
I was 11 when I started! And, just to let you know, religion doesnt mean anything against getting your period. Every girl gets it, no matter what religion, or if she is virgin or not!! <33 Micaela

Cari, 8/11/2008 6:23:06 PM
Girls are starting to develop at younger and younger ages perhaps due to better nutrition that their mothers and grandmothers or perhaps due to hormones in the foods they eat. Whatever the reason, we moms and grandmoms, etc need to prepare them at a younger age. Maybe they don't need to know all the details at age 9 or even 10 or 11 but they need to know it WILL happen! I am an elementary school teacher and I have had several of my 4th graders (ages 9 and 10) begin their periods at school. Some of these girls are completely traumatized and taken unawares. Some have been prepared for it and accept it pretty easily. It's all about giving the girls the information!
As you see changes in your daughter (breast buds, increase in body hair, emotional changes, etc) you need to tell them more and more. Don't let it happen to them unexpectedly, leaving them scared that they are dying! By the way, I told one of my daughters about periods when she was 5 and asked about the box of pads in the bathroom. My other daughter was about the same age when she saw one of those commercials on tv.
As for tampon use for young girls, the advice our school nurse says "If you are old enough to have a period, you are old enough to use a tampon. HOWEVER, a girl may want to use mainly pads the first year just to be able to physically see how much is coming out and get a good idea of what is 'normal' for her.
(By the way, my mom died when I was a toddler so my dad had to have 'the talk' with me. He chose to have it when I was 16 and had already had my period for 4 years. Thankfully, I had an aunt who had already enlightened me!)

Keron, 8/17/2008 2:52:42 PM
My daughter is 14, and she has had spots in her underwear for a year now. She just hit 100lbs, has pubic hair, and is getting boobs, but she still hasn't started. She keeps asking me when is she going to start because all of her friends have it and she just feels left out, they make fun of her..any advice?

Marissa, 8/19/2008 2:51:50 PM
Wow, Keron do I have advice for you! I am 13 years old and just got my period around 1 and 1/2 months ago. My friends all got their periods during the year and just recently I got mine. My friends would ALWAYS talk about it and for an amount of time I actually wanted my period. Wow has that changed!! Just tell her that it's totally normal and I'm not trying to say she's too thin, but maybe an extra 10 or 15 pounds might help. Anyway, if she's sad about being made fun of and seems depressed, all the ice cream will go to a good cause!! Haha... I felt the same way and I was at the doctor around 6 months ago and he asked my mom if I got my period. He said maybe she's not telling you something and then I butted in and said no, I'm serious I didn't get it yet. And then he cracked a joke saying that if I don't get it I'll have to be a roman catholic nun. Worst part is: I'm jewish. So after a while, I got it. Not to mention at a WONDERFUL time. I had just come home from camp and I was going to the bathroom and my undies looked peculiarly wet and full of red gook. Yup, that was my period and you can tell your daughter my story if ya wanna. Hope she comes with good luck. And don't forget to keep a few extra pads with her and around the house at all times. Good luck. :)

reaha, 8/29/2008 6:07:21 AM
my daughter has brownish sticky stains in her pants what is can anyone help me

kristin, 9/3/2008 10:45:05 PM
i would say if your daughter is going to be on the swim team teach her how to inscert a tampond if there is a guy coach the other way is to talk to a female teacher that same thing happen to me when i was in his school had a male coach for swimming and he tried giving us the talk but we would help each other out like if one needed a tampond fro swimming me or the girls would have some in are lockers. i also suggest having the female trainner if there is one at yuor daughter have the female teacher talk to your daughter.

Vicki, 9/5/2008 2:04:34 PM
Anyone know how to explain your period to an Autistic girl? So she understands and is not scared?

Bumia, 9/9/2008 9:54:15 PM
Im 13 and i got my period for the first time 6 months ago and Im nervous because sometimes i will get it each month and then i will not get it for a month is this normal?Please respond, thx!

Jordan, 9/10/2008 8:31:38 PM
Puberty sucks the pads feel funny

Chelsie, 9/11/2008 6:22:52 PM
I am 13 years old and almost 14 ALL of my friend have started
I want 2 start because i feel left out! I have small boobs, pubic hair, and i have this white goo stuff that i find in my undies. (what is that?) my mom has given me "the talk" and so has my school
Is there a way I can start sooner? if there is any thing I can do plese repley!!!!!!! Thanks

Rhiannon, 9/13/2008 10:03:41 AM
so i play a lot of Sports, im 15, and im on my highschool Varsity Cross Country, winter and spring track, and i play basketball and lacrosse. So i started my period about a year ago, and i think i really need to know how to use a tampon because i play so many sports... and what sucks even more, is that i just got my period today, and i have a Cross Country race in 3 days, but i really dont think ill be able to run 3 miles with a pad on. HELP!!

Dye, 9/24/2008 10:35:51 PM
Vicki, my daughter is almost 8 and she is Autistic. My daughter takes everything literal, so I explained that when women are born that we are born with eggs. When women get old enough we need to get rid of 1 egg a month. The eggs look like we are bleeding. It takes 3-7 days and then we are done for the month. I also explained about the boys have seeds and girls have eggs. Maybe this is heplful?? I do not know. Good luck to you. Dye

Kim, 9/25/2008 11:38:31 AM
my daughter started her period this year. shes 12.
however she will go about every 5 days then start again.
we have had her to the family dr. and have had several blood tests and been to a family history dr.
i know it takes a while sometimes for it to regulate ~ has anybody else ran into this type of problem ?
the drs. have come to no conclusion.
wanted to put her on birth control (to regulate ) but wanted to know what is wrong first.
any suggestions ?

brittney, 9/29/2008 4:45:14 PM
i am scared and dont want my period HELP!!!!!!!!

Laura, 9/29/2008 6:01:51 PM
Im only 13 and I think I might be getting my period. I have a brown discharge and thats it. I dont have any of the other signs of getting it. All my friends have theres and they showed me how to be prepared. But if I dont the cramps or the headaches, am I really getting it? Please help me I've asked my mom and she dosnt know either. So, PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!

sydney, 10/1/2008 7:02:03 PM
i think i might get my period soon. i already am growing pubic hair, and my breasts are growing for about 2 years now. i have been having abdominal pain for the past 4 weeks straight. and i saw like a little black armpit hair in my pit the other night. do you think i may get it?

Flavia, 10/3/2008 12:38:23 PM
sydney, you are not going to get your period yet, you need at least a decent amount of armpit hair before your period.

guest, 10/4/2008 3:15:23 PM
sydney you could get it any time it's my advice to be prepared.

Stephanie, 10/11/2008 12:28:04 AM
I'm so glad I found this site. My dtr is 8 but taller,heavier and more developed than I was. I didn't start until I was about 14 or 15 (on a camping trip w/friends- not a good place to take care of business!) My dtr has started getting "buds" so I've gotten her some camisoles to wear under her school uniforms. I haven't noticed pubic or armpit hair but her legs are pretty hairy. She's about 85lbs. I'm thinking she will probably start around 10-11. Does Kotex still have the pink box full of supplies? I remember my mom having the talk w/me and giving me this pink box from Kotex w/ pads, both w/and w/o belts and I think it had a little book w/info in it. I always kept my supplies in that box in my bottom drawer. My school also showed a movie for the girls in 5th grade and the same day a friend started. So sad, she flooded through white pants and pooled her seat so everyone knew. She didn't come back to school for a few days. I was always worried that would happen to me. Thanks for this site.

Stacy, 10/11/2008 11:25:00 AM
Laura, you could start any day. Not everyone gets cramps or headaches with their period. In fact my mom's sisters and mother never had any problems with their periods as far as cramping goes, and she had major pain and cramping, and they thought that it was all in her head, and that she was being dramatic. Just feel lucky that you don't have any of the cramping so far, and be prepared with pads on hand in case it starts to get heavier, suddenly. I would at least wear a thin liner everyday, and it may not be a bad idea to keep a clean pair of underwear with you as well.

Everybody's body reacts differently.

Sara, 10/11/2008 9:40:53 PM
Hi Girls 15 and under,

I absolutely believe that the best source for information about periods, tampons, and birth control is found on the Planned Parenthood website www.plannedparenthood.org

They answer all of your questions, and all of the information is fact and not just someone's best guess or opinion. I highly recommend this site to someone who wants the right information but is unable to get it from teachers, parents, or friends.

I've seen some really bad advice on here..and some parents who have no idea what they're talking about which really scares me. It is important for all young girls to have the facts.

Sara (I'm 25)

Beth, 10/21/2008 12:13:57 PM
Stephanie, I also had the pink box with the supplies, including the belt. Do they still have those?

jan, 10/22/2008 4:11:52 PM
When i was11 yrs old i have starrted my period and im only 13 yrs old and still have it

shelby, 11/8/2008 10:28:47 AM
what? belt? old fashion...

Dee, 11/11/2008 11:17:27 AM
I have a 9 yr old who has been complaining of stomach pain for 3 days. She is not running a fever or any other symptoms. She is 102lbs and has began developing breasts and her lgs have gotten hairy. I am thinking she is close to starting. Any thoughts?

Skyla., 11/16/2008 1:15:15 PM
Hey,
Im 14 and i have not started mty period, i want a bit because my friends have apart from one but she weighs less than me but she is taller, i dont want to be thr last in y class to start but i want to before becca

HEY SOMEONE, 11/25/2008 1:17:20 AM
my daughter got her Period when she was 12!!!!!!!!!!!! so this didnt matter but i no 2 girls on of them got it in year 2 and the other one got it in yr 4...

Miss Mam, 12/3/2008 2:54:41 PM
Lidia, Seriously, Anna is asking for help and all you did was put her down and make her feel worse. What kind of parent are you? Anna, if you have a school counsler or nurse you could talk to that would be best. Raising a child is hard, but we all make mistakes. I hope you are not so that you can enjoy your life to its fullest before you have to settle down with children, but in the event you are I am sure the counsler or nurse will help you talk to your uncle. If he was willing to take you in and give you a home, I am sure he will understand what is going on. He may be a lil upset and need a lil time to take it all in, but it will work out. Have faith sweetie, and good luck to you.

mary, 12/5/2008 11:13:59 PM
my daughter is 12 she started her period about 3 months ago, this month she started, went for a week and stopped. A few day later started again went a couple days and quit, and again, it doesn't seem to be stopping. Could some thing be wrong with her.

halley, 12/7/2008 10:25:45 PM
im 13 and i feel like all around me the world is "preparing me for my period" i used to be so awkward about it but now, the only thing im scared about is if it starts at school and i cant control the blood, i would be 100,000,000% mortified if i had blood on the back of my skirt, can anyone give me advice on how it was when u started? was it like a waterfall? uncontrollable? please help!!!

Single Dad, 12/9/2008 5:34:54 PM
My 11 yr old came to me and said her tummy was upset and headaches. she started growing breast 6 months ago .Not real sure if she was going to start. so i went down and got some pantyliners and put them in the bathroom and tried to explain the womens body to her as much as i could. i kept her home from school that day . when night came around she did in fact
start .she did not freak or anything about her body what i do not know is when does a female need her pap smears and all that stuff. when they have their periods or when they have sex for the first times. not many females are really open to discussing periods or the female body with a man

This website really needs a FAQ for the single dad and maybe a link so the uninformed man can explain the period and other female realted stuff

GoalieMom, 12/12/2008 8:36:43 PM
This is to Single Dad, I hope you purchased more that pantiliners. She'll need an overnight pad (thicker) and a regular pad. Your questions can be answered here on this web site and at Dot Girl and you can ask her pediatrician for help. You need to inform drs that she got her period and if and when she needs to see an ob/gyn. Don't forget girls can get pregnant on their first time and even if their periods are irregular. Get books, read and then inform her don't scare her and don't tell her myths or old wives tales. Have her read and ask YOU or a female you trust don't let her "girlfriends" tell her information. Good Luck and remember being open and honest and if you don't know an answer to her question tell her you'll find out the answer and then make sure you get back to her. Let her know she can come to you for anything, even "girl stuff" - remember there is always places to get your answers.

K, 12/16/2008 2:39:03 PM
Hey I got my period on my 13th birthday. The night before my birthday i had horrible cramps. they were so bad i could not even move! The weeks before i was really sensitive and cried alot for no reason. My breasts also grew alot and were sore.

Girls that are worried about it sneaking up on you in public I want you to know that when i got it I went through school the whole day not even knowing. I didnt bleed through my pants and i started pretty heavy. So don't be worried!!!!!

Just wondering but what would you say is the best pad for young girls? The ones i have are way too big for me.

Tayla, 12/28/2008 12:11:30 AM
Hey k im 13 to and i just got my period about 3 months ago try libra pads there very thin but sutible for even realy heavy periods.And to all the moms out there i dont think tampons are dangerous becouse would you rather have your daughter come home upset becouse she couldnt swim becouse she had her period or happy that she can have a goodtime with her period? i use tampons becouse i do lots of sport like swiming and horseriding and i have never had a problem with tampons. :)

Jemma, 1/1/2009 6:06:41 AM
I'm 13, and this isn't anything about "periods" ...Well, all my friends have breasts, but i don't. And I'm sort of annoyed. How do you know if you are getting them, i know it's a weird question, but i would really like to know.

Kind regards,
Jemma

Tina, 1/2/2009 10:15:11 AM
My daughter is 9 1/2. We are very close and talk about things with no problem. Since she is my only child, she is with me everywhere I go. Including the bathroom. So she has known along time about bleeding, using pads, cramps, etc.
She stayed at grandmas over the weekend. My mom called and I knew something wasn't right. She said my daughter said there was blood in the toilet (alot) and on the toilet paper. But she flushed before my mom could see. My mom gave her a panty liner. When I got there later, I went into the bathroom with her to check the liner. There was nothing. There was a tiny bit of brown on her undies, however. So I do not know if this was her first period or not.
My question is, do we run to the hospital or wait for furthier signs of what it could have been. She seems absloutley fine ever since.

kristy, 1/5/2009 1:05:55 PM
my daughter has pubic hair and her face breaks out and she has to wear deodarant this morning she started discharging is she going to start her period

Serena, 1/6/2009 7:26:09 AM
Im 13 and got my period a week after my 13th birthday. I really wanted to get mine cos all my friends had gotten theirs. It came for one day then was gone then came back 2 months later , at first it was light but then when i got my next monthly it was heavy. I use super pads & hated them at first but you get used to the nappy feeling =]

sara, 1/8/2009 1:24:41 AM
my daughter is 13 year old can she wear bras and sport bras

K, 1/8/2009 5:53:59 PM
Thanks Tayla. I will definitley try those.

Morgan, 1/20/2009 1:42:14 PM
Yesterday i had alot of blood on the toilet paper and then two big brown spots on my underwear, and i put a pad on and later that afternoon their was about 5 or 6 brownish spots and today i put one on at about eight thirty a.m. and its now 2:41 p.m. and im just wondering is that really my period or what?
this would be my first time, and im 14 with all of the symptons.. can someone tell me if thats my period; i would greatly appreciate it.

Serena, 1/20/2009 7:38:55 PM
Morgan : That is definitely your period & that is usually what happens on the first time .

laura, 1/22/2009 5:39:41 PM
hey im back, im now 14 and i did get it. i woke up in the morning with brown discharge in my underwear. i was getting ready for school and i decided to wear a liner just in case. about half way through the school day i went to the bathroom and there was some blood. the following month that i was supposed to get it, i didnt. why??

claudia, 1/26/2009 3:40:10 PM
i swear, this is the best site ever.

i just started my period today and i was really confused so i came here.
if you dont have your period yet, its ok. i used to think i would never get it.
i prayed for DAYS and finally it happened.
im just glad because now i can have the 5 children i have always dreamed of having WHEN IM OLDER OF COURSE!

i have a slight problem. telling my mom.
suggestions?
thx,
claudia

merced, 2/13/2009 12:06:37 PM
hi myh daugter its been having stomac pain she feels like throuin up but nothing then at times she feel very ok like normal can sombody tellme if its time for hers firs period please help

14 yr. old, 2/28/2009 12:33:20 AM
hi. I am fourteen, have some breasts, pubic hair, and have had discharge for about 5 months now. does anybody think that I will get my period soon? all of my friends, besides 3, have gotten there's. the funny thing is that we're all friends but I get mocked for not having my period. :( any advise for that?!

glory, 2/28/2009 3:40:25 PM
i have got 2yr old baby. i was very surprised to see this helpful information. it is more helpful. thanks a lot all..

Claudia, 3/18/2009 6:46:35 PM
oh crumbs what to do! I was putting my ten yr old daughters clothes back after washing and in her underwear draw is an open pack of pads with four missing. I didn't buy them, shes not asked me about periods or stuff and I've not seen any stained undies, I don't think she has even started puberty yet let alone having periods.

Julia, 3/22/2009 11:05:26 AM
Do you have to be 100 pounds to get your period?

debbie, 3/27/2009 3:11:39 PM
what if they are missing there period every other month what does that mean?? and there 13

help!!!, 3/30/2009 5:49:38 PM
how do i tell my mom that i think i need to start shaving my legs and armpits? also deoderant

Emzy, 4/5/2009 4:26:19 PM
I got mine last night funny story didn't have to tell mom friend told her for me and now i don't know(CRAMP) why i ever wanted it

Worried, 4/19/2009 12:04:05 PM
My daughter started her period yesterday, (she's 11 1/2). Anyway, I don't know if we bought the wrong kind of pads or what, but she keeps getting stains in the BACK of her panties. I was afraid something was really wrong, so I had her wipe back there, and there was no blood on the tp. Is it possible the pad is simply not catching it fast enough and the blood is making it to the back? If so, what type of pads should we be using? I bought her the kind I use, which are Always, but they don't seem to be getting the job done. Suggestions?

Helpful? , 4/29/2009 4:02:15 PM
To help!!!,
I know how you feel. I am a young teen and a late bloomer. Dealing with this stuff can be difficult. What I would recommend would be to go shopping with your mom. If you happen to go down this aisle, perfect!! Ask her then! Just say, "Mom, I think I need to start shaving and wearing deodorant. Can you help me get some supplies?" Or just ask her at home. I know it can be embarrassing, but it's nothing to be ashamed of. Hey, your mom is probably just as uncomfortable talking about this stuff as you are. But this kind of thing happens. It happens to all of us girls. Hope this helps! Wishing the best!

bella, 4/29/2009 6:26:00 PM
im 13 and i have an old, single dad. i have breasts,pubic hair and armpit hair. ive been getting a yellowish smelly discharg but am worried i may have a yeast infection. but dont know how to tell my dad about it or how to tell him when i get my period.....can someone tell me how i should do that?.....or how to take care of it whithout him?

hannah, 5/4/2009 11:37:34 PM
ok everyone needs to stop freaking out if your child is too young for tampons. if your daughter wants to use them and feels prepared then you should be there to support her, she will not lose her virginity, or hurt herself. if you teach her properly how to use one there is no problem and it honestly saves them from so much embaressment and shame from their first periods.

j, 5/6/2009 2:58:36 PM
is the discharge supposed to get heavier or lighter when youre close to gettting your period??

Sam, 5/10/2009 10:44:51 PM
I'm 13, I've had my period for about 3 months now. I've always had super light periods and the blood occasionally is red , most of the time brown. I know people will be telling me this is normal but I'm just curios?

mistie, 5/12/2009 10:44:51 AM
im 20 now,but when i was 9 i started.Thankfully our older neighbor was going throught the change so she gave my mom her pads.A week after she gave them to her;I was coming home from the store with mom and i had to go to my surprise i looked down at my undies and it was there!I yelled for mom to come her(i was in tears)mom simply got those supplies down for me and told me what was going on and what to do.
now being 20 i'm still irregular is that normal.

sparkle, 5/18/2009 4:44:27 AM
My daughter just turned 8 and she already got armpit hair and breast! I am so freaking scared that she might star her periods way too soon. She seems to be getting a bit conscious about it. I have explained her that its ok for girls to grow breast and armpit hair. I simply hav no clue of how i start telling her about periods. My Question is how early will her periods start after all these sign????
thanks

Stefaniii, 6/9/2009 3:08:54 AM
Ok, to the girls 14 and under that are extremely concerned about getting their period, you guys need to chill out!! Im 14 years old, ive had mine for 1 1/2 years, and mine started over NIGHT!! And heavily too. If you are really that worried about all of this happening, go to
plannedparenthood.org
You can find answers to alot of questions you have!! And relax, if you havent had it yet, be relieved!! Haha. Its so much easier without a period, ! Everybody grows at their own pace! :) so take a deep breathe And live life in the moment and dont stress about the stuff that isnt affecting you yet!!

lainie, 7/8/2009 8:07:39 PM
my daughter is 9 and just got her period today - I know it can be spotty at first - what is the best product at such a young age?

D, 7/18/2009 7:50:12 PM
I have read most of the comments posted and they are very helpful. However, I feel I am still in unfamiliar territory. My daughter is almost 10. One of her friends that is a little older just started her period this week and naturally she is a little curious. I know I need to have this conversation with her but I am concerned on how far I should go with our talk. I still think she is a little too young for the "sex talk". Any advice.

MaRissa, 7/22/2009 5:24:45 PM
Jen, I suggest telling her: It's something adults women have, and you will find out about them when your oldeer!

Cary, 7/25/2009 9:25:18 PM
My daughter is 9 and she got her period (very light) on July 4th, then again really light on July 17th and now again on July 25th. Is this common?

Autumn, 7/26/2009 8:08:38 PM
I'm only 13, and found this website online. I think I may start my period soon because I have all the symptoms, but my mom wont tell me anything about. Its like shes uncomfortable to talk to me about anything. I mentioned something I learned a year ago, and it was normal for someone my age to know. When I metioned it she was like how do you know about this stuff. Sorry I'm just really confused! Someine Please help!

K, 7/31/2009 8:33:42 PM
To Autumn

At 13 you are definitely at an age it would be normal to begin your period. If your mother is not comfortable talking about this subject, maybe she would not be opposed to having you speak with a nurse or your doctor about it. If school were in session I would recommend speaking with the school nurse. I will tell you from personal experience it is a good idea to keep an extra pad with you, in your purse or locker just in case you do begin soon. Best of luck. I hope you find someone to talk to.

K, 7/31/2009 8:46:50 PM
My daughter recently turned 10, she is beginning to develop breasts and has become quite moody. =) I have already begun talking with her about her body and the changes she can expect over the next few years. I am preparing a 'kit' for her by packing a nice travel bag with a variety of pads, liners, and wipes for her to try, we will eventually add tampons and we plan to pack an 'emergency kit' for her backpack/locker
I'm hoping this not only prepares her but also helps me get through my baby growing up. ;)

Jenny, 8/20/2009 7:07:06 PM
I was wondering because someone recently asked me if a young girl has not recieved her period yet and she has a yeast infection, will this affect her in any way?

Casey, 8/29/2009 10:28:33 AM
Hi, I have a 9 year old daughter who is a little overweight, and has just started to get smelly underarm, but she does not have breast or buds or pubic hair. Just wanted someone who can remember whether we get our womanly shape first before our first period. On her fathers side the girls get their first period at the age of 8. I remember getting mine at 12 just before i turned 13.

Sara, 9/2/2009 7:38:18 AM
It is imperative that we talk to our daughters about the changes that their bodies are undergoing. I started my period at 10 1/2 and now I have a 9 year old. Over the summer she really started "budding" and has underarm hair. We actually had our talk when she was 7 because she stays under me all the time because she is the only girl in a house with teen brothers and I know that girls are starting to mature earlier and earlier and I didn't want her to be caught unprepared. I know that the time is coming because I see the physical changes in her and I remember it happening with me as well. I have also noticed a certain time of the month that she is very weepy. This is funny because before I started taking herbal supplements, I was a stark raving lunatic when I was PMS'ing. This is an interesting contrast. Anyway, with all that said, she has her kit ready for when that day comes.

Sara, 9/2/2009 7:41:38 AM
@ Carey--It is common for a girl's first few cycles to be irregular. It never happened to me, but my niece experienced that. If I remember correctly, she had two in one month and then didn't have one for two months, by the time it started again, she was regular.

Rebekah, 9/8/2009 5:07:51 PM
Today i felt like i had gotten my 1st period. o went to the bathroom to find out it was just discharge. the discharge was a lot heavier than usual. does this mean my period is coming soon? and if it does mean that, approximately how soon? and btw it was clear and thick, but not lumpy.

moviemadness, 9/16/2009 2:14:51 PM
I remember getting my period. it was last year and i took my cousin to see mama mia and i went to the bathroom and saw a tiny streak of blood. I was scared to death and then i thought it was nothing. In the girls bathroom they have books about periods and stuff so i snagged some.

the whole time during the movie i was thinking. "wheres 25 cents when u need it?"

Susan, 11/19/2009 9:35:08 AM
I think it's really sad that there are young girls out there that are in the dark about their own bodies. My 11 year old daughter has been prepared for her period for months.....so when she started her period last night she was ready....excited and perhaps a little nervous about school....but ready!